Clearly I’m not very good at judging, as you’ve read in my previous post. Really, from what I summed up there I shouldn’t be left in charge of the bathtub never mind assessing the value of the life I lead!
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Here now follow a few things I jotted down.
BETTER HABITS to install:
- only compare and judge things worth of doing so. All other things: appreciate their existence, their intricity, without comparing or ranking them or subjecting them to standards you or they have no business with. In short: quick call before I start comparing. This new habit will probably give more quiet in the head and new views on and thoughts about the things not being compared.
- use the free time I get from not comparing all the time to relax, to destress, to smell the roses. To play, to hang around, to just be.
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BETTER SKILLS to develop:
- the skill of not-judging. Not comparing. See the other things.
- the skill of comparing and judging based on non-cerebral values. Not everything has to be useful, rational, logical.
- Learn to choose based on emotions. Feel the freedom and richness that will come from that.
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BETTER UPBRINGING to internalize:
- aw, just forget about it all. I’m old enough to construct a set of values of my own.
- recognize I have an emotional bias towards receiving worded or monetary praise.I’ll need to practice actively to try and change this. The same I did with not feeling basically safe.
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BETTER PREMISSES to work with:
I’ll get myself a whole new set. The one I’m using is…. not very good.
I’ve got no idea yet how the new set will look. I first have to work through the whole series of this thought process I think, all 5 steps (or 8) of it. I’m also under the weather so no energy to think clearly about a new set.
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